What To Do When You Feel Stuck

What To Do When You Feel Stuck

How to Get Inspired Again

For years, I have been slowed down by my anxiety, my pessimism, and my fears. All those demons that inhabit each one of us, if we let them. Truth is, demons are fashionable only on Halloween. And there are solutions, ways to improve our quality of life, even if it’s temporary. Because we all feel a bit stuck from time to time, it’s normal and nothing to be ashamed of. We just need to take a deep breath, adjust our crown, and keep our chin as high as we can. We may not know what we are supposed to be doing on this planet, but we can figure it out along the way.

But before we delve into this, let me tell you something about myself to give you a bit of context. I promise I’ll keep it short. Just grab a cup of coffee, find a nice place, sit down. Make yourself comfortable..

This year has been one of the hardest years of my life. After graduation, I felt lost, I felt hopeless, without a purpose, without a goal. I felt meaningless. All of a sudden, what I studied for the past three years did not feel like a call anymore. I was drained. So, I decided to move to London, hoping to find that sparkle that ignites people’s lives, to chase the dream of becoming someone. Well, let me tell you the truth guys, life does not always go as planned. London is breathtaking, yes, it is fascinating and charming. But it’s also big and scary and crowded. When I moved here, I soon discovered that my dream of becoming someone… it just was not possible, as there are way too many someones in this city, running up and down the escalators, spending money on fancy dinners and expensive clothes.

Needless to say, I was speechless. Not only university was over and my life seemed meaningless, but the place I had always dreamed of was, in reality, a disappointment. Don’t get me wrong, I believe London is still breathtaking, but if you have a full-time job and spend most of your day commuting, you don’t have much time to actually enjoy living in the capital. Long story short, this new unexpected reality led me to a very weird place. I felt lonely, bored and sad, which led me to spend my days eating and watching TV series. And I felt stuck. Stuck in a life that I never wanted. But I didn’t see any chance of changing and I was tired all the time because of work.

And this is why I knew I had to make a change happen. It didn’t have to be a big, life-changing transformation. But I had to adjust my mindset, I had to give meaning to my life.

I am still at the beginning of this process, but I thought it would have been fun sharing it with you. Because finding helping hands along the way makes the process like one of those adventures that you want to tell your friends about. So, let’s embark on this journey towards a more positive mindset, towards the most creative, inspired, and inspiring version of ourselves.

Let’s get started!

a clean and organised environment helps to clear your mind

5 INSPIRING THINGS TO DO TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU FEEL STUCK:

Embrace your environment.

Often, we tend to take for granted what we perceive as familiar. Once we get used to a place or a situation, everything in our life becomes a mechanical, alienating process. Have you ever driven somewhere without paying attention to where you were going because you were too used to do the same way every day? This can happen with our lives as well. We wake up, go to work, go to school, come back, and fall asleep. This repetitiveness can kill us. It can destroy our potential and our creativity, making us feel hopelessly stuck.

My first tip is to rediscover what you perceive as familiar. Rediscover your passions and your hobbies, the people in your life, even and especially yourself. Next time pay attention to what you’re doing and ask yourself if this is what you really want, what you really feel like. Develop a new approach to life and start embracing every positive little thing you already have. Cherish the people that surround you instead of taking them for granted, take care of your house because it is taking care of you, celebrate every day of your life and view every sunrise as a new beginning, a chance to do better, to be better. Embrace what you have around and what you have within. Embrace it all, even the less shiny side.

Don’t postpone.

I think that everybody at some point in their life- or maybe every day, raise your hand, people- felt the need to postpone things. Maybe a physical transformation or a new job or a diet, or simply the alarm in the morning. Well, guys, do you know what postponing leads to? More postponing! This is the main reason why our new year’s resolutions fail and we get stuck in our usual routine. Why do you have to wait until next year before becoming the best version of yourself? Everybody keeps saying that life is short and we have to live the moment. Well, it is actually true.

So, if you want to be in shape, don’t wait until Monday to start your diet. And if you don’t like your job, apply somewhere else. And if you want to be more organised, don’t wait until January 1st before getting your life together. Don’t be afraid, it’s not as daunting as it may appear. All you need is a plan. Once everything is planned, you won’t have any excuse to keep postponing.

Sit down, close your eyes, and ask yourself where you want to be in one month, one year, five years. Picture the life you want to live and all the things you want to accomplish. The job you will like to have and the people you will want to be surrounded by. Then, on a piece of paper start writing down every goal, starting from the goals you would like to accomplish in 5 years all the way down to the ones you will want to achieve in a couple of months. For each goal, find a reason why. Having a clear reason will help you stay motivated and inspired.

Finally, break those goals into measurable actions, a step-by-step programme that you can start working on right now, a little progress each day. Don’t be vague, make sure your actions are things you can tick off at the end of the week. I know it may sound intimidating at first, but it will get better and better once you start getting used to it. Which leads me to point number 3.

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Don’t let your fears control you.

Literally! Don’t be scared, you’re not the only one! How many sleepless nights have we spent, tossing and turning in bed, before an important event? The first day of school, just before an interview or an important meeting. Our fears are always at their peak when we try something new because we tend to feel comfortable in familiar situations. Meeting new people, for example, is a challenge for many of us- hello, social anxiety, my dear friend. However, if we don’t trigger the change, we will never evolve, grow, or flourish.

Once, I read something that drastically changed my perspective on life. It said: “being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave”. I found it so inspiring. Not only it encouraged me to pursue what I want in life without letting my insecurities stop me, but it also made me realise that, as human beings, we all need to embrace and accept our fears. Being afraid is part of our range of emotions. Among other instincts, it makes us human.

We don’t have to fight it because we would just end up wasting a lot of time and energy, refusing to accept our limitations as human beings. Instead, we have to acknowledge it and keep going nonetheless. Being afraid and scared is okay, but it’s not a good reason to stay still and remain stuck in our past. Accept your fears and keep growing despite them. And if you don’t believe transformations are wonderful, have you ever seen a butterfly?

Accept help.

Always. It doesn’t matter who you are, there is always someone in your life that would be happy to help you, even though sometimes we fail to see it. It could be a friend, a relative, a professor, a colleague. Maybe even a stranger. For a society to thrive, people not only need to offer help but also to accept help. Don’t see it as a failure: if you can’t do it on your own, it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It simply means sometimes you need someone to gently push you to be braver, more confident, and fiercer. It’s like when your car gets stuck in a ditch. You can try to push and push and push until you’re soaked in sweat. Or you can just ask your friend to help you push it. It doesn’t mean you’re not strong enough. It means people are stronger together. Period.

read something that inspires you

Get inspired.

This is probably the tip that I like the most and the one that took me the most time to figure out. Get inspired, people. It leads us back to point number 1: look around you. What is it that you like? What is it that makes your heart beat faster and the blood in your veins flow? Is it drawing, maybe? Singing? Making plans? Travelling? Whatever it is, let it inspire you. Dedicate a part of your day to whatever makes you happy. If you say, you don’t have time, you’re partly lying to yourself. I’ve done it. So many times. No, I don’t have time to go outside with my camera and take pictures. But yes, I have time for a Friends marathon, snacking on crisps and chocolate.

Truth is, we always have time. We just need to prioritise what will help us flourish, what intellectually and spiritually nurtures us. If you love sports, go and join a team in your town. Or if you love taking care of yourself, end your day with a warm bubble bath and a face mask. If you love singing, don’t be afraid of the neighbours complaining and sing louder. Find what makes you inspired and find time for it. Being inspired means letting your creative juices flow, which helps you finding a solution to a problem, a new perspective on an old situation, or a way to change your life. It’s normal to feel stuck from time to time and seeking change is daunting. So, fall in love with the process, make it fun, and the change will just seem like a new, big adventure. I promise.

Now, tell me a bit about yourself. Have you ever felt stuck? Have you ever felt hopeless? Share your story in the comments down below and we can try to help each other.

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